Wedding Season

Alice + Olivia

I know Wedding Season typically falls much earlier than I'm now discussing but as I have a few Fall weddings in my future I've had wedding-wear on my mind the past few weeks and I must admit to you all, I am stumped.  I haven't yet had to really think about wedding wear, my first round of friends have just started tying the knot and (between us) I have no idea what to wear.

I mean, let me just shed some light on the questions running through my fashion-raddled brain: White is out, obvi and I feel like black is just too depressing but I don't want to do anything with sequins because that's just too much and may be viewed as kind of obnoxious. but it is Fall so what if it's cold but one is in California and one is in New York so does that mean two different dresses? and how formal are both of them? is the California one less formal than the New York one simply because it is in California ergo forcing the buying of two dresses anyway? and of course I want to show off my best feature (legs) but I don't want to look like a skank and anything too tight is out because that just looks like i'm trying to hard but I definitely want to look good.  so no black, no white, no sequins, needs to be fallish, needs to work for west coast and east coast, can't be too tight, want it to show off my legs..

I mean, CHRIST.  It's kind of exhausting and I haven't even given one single thought about shoes.  So, I found this today at Bloomies:

BCBG

With maybe these:

Bagley Mischka

But, I need your help.  I mean, I don't know people what do you think???